Monday, 28 January 2013
Hey, Superman wore glasses.
My working title for this post was Headless Trannies but I opted for something a little more positive. I am the last person to complain about other people. My basic life ethics include forgiving and forgetting, not judging but trying to find the positive and good in all. That is why I struggled to put this out without a negative vibe.
Like so many other Tgirls. I spend a lot of time on Flickr.com. It's our forum to post and view photos of each other in all our feminine finery. Much like everyone else, I have gone through an evolution process with my look and my photos. In the beginning, there is an awkward phase of: 1. lack of makeup skills, 2. questionable choices of fashion, 3. poor self grooming, 4. weak self photography skills, and 5. a general lack of confidence.
The first four of those things are quickly overcome with some help, experience and self critiquing. The last one however; confidence, is not so easily obtainable. It takes a great deal of positive feedback and personal approval to begin to build a small amount of confidence. This is why so many Tgirls crop their own heads out of the picture. They may be pleased enough with their clothing choices and their overall body image but are not happy about how their face looks.
To this situation, I would say: Ladies, you are never going to look exactly like Kate Moss, or Jennifer Aniston, or Hiedi Klum or any other femme icon that you imagine yourself to be. Instead, focus on being the best You that you can be. Sure, we all have bad hair days, or bad makeup days but it doesn't matter. Post it up and you will be surprised how much support and encouragement you will get. When people see your face they are far more likely to engage with you than if you are just a headless body. Think of it this way.... Even a a girl with a face that gets scored a Four by the judges beats one without a face at all, who gets a big Zero.
The other reason why many Tgirls continue to post photos of themselves without their head is so that they cannot be recognized. Many of us have personal situations where we would not want either family, friends, co-workers, or neighbours to discover our secret. We still want to post pictures however, in order to search out acceptance and approval via the web. This is why a large number of Tgirls still post headless shots of themselves on the internet. They are thinking that if one of the above people sees their photo some how, their identity will be saved by the fact that their head is missing from the picture. Wrong!!
Here is why. Firstly, there are so many other things that would get you busted first. Things like Her wardrobe (if it was borrowed) or the setting of the picture, such as your living room, bedroom, or other part of your house will get faster recognition. You would be amazed at how much a wig and makeup do for a disguise. Throw in body augmenting items like a corset, breast forms or hip pads and you would not be recognized by your own mother unless you told her. Its like a super hero and their secret identity. I have put this to a test.
I have slipped a photo of myself dolled up, face showing, by someone who knows me as well as anyone and the only only thing they gleamed from the picture was the setting. To this day, that person still asks who "that woman" was in the back yard. I just tell him it was a neighbour (who has since moved away).
I also had a friend from a local GLBT nightclub that I used to hang out with who has only ever saw me dressed up. One day, purely by coincidence, this friend ended up at my regular place of work as a customer. I recognized her immediately but I did not reveal my alternate identity to her. We did business and had a conversation for about ten minutes and at no time did she ever clue into who I was. I confirmed the fact the next time I ran into her at the club. I have splattered my face all over the web for over a decade and it has never come back to me.
So you see, the disguise works. Remember, Superman just threw on a pair of glasses and shirt and tie and Lois Lane and Jimmy Olsen never figured out that he and Clark Kent were the same person. I am one of the many people who are far less trusting and accepting of a headless tranny. I don't care if you're not as hot as Kate Beckinsale. I would converse with you all the same. If you don't trust me to show me your face that how can trust you?
With that said, I have a small number of pictures of myself on my flickr page with my head cut off. Those pics are just the fault of the photographer, Otto Timur, who needs to keep his day job. I throw most of them out but the few that I have kept were for something special or unique in the picture. 99% of my photos show my face.
Here's looking at you.