Sunday, 27 May 2012

Tick tock, hurry up!

   A friend had recently posted a blog article about prep time. Most of us g*rls have a story about how much time and effort we put into our appearance before going out in public. Many people who are new to our world or have never crossdressed to go out can't appreciate the effort we put into it. Some g*rls who are full time, or transitioning, have put the in the efforts in major ways like electrolysis, surgery, etc so that they don't have to spend as much time on a daily basis getting pretty. My friend, who is not 100% full time, but close, requires only a few minutes of prep to get ready to go out. Some g*rls are very particular about "passing" in public and have to feel that their look is convincing enough to not be "made" as male. I was motivated to write this article because it came up that I took almost three hours of prep to get ready to go out. Let me explain.

   For me; I am not even close to full time, it's an occasion or event when I get dolled up. I am also a bit OCD, so I want to be thorough. I have no illusions of "passing". I am just too male to be that convincing. I don't however want to attract the wrong kind of attention so being close to passing is a goal that I strive for. I am my own biggest critic of myself too and I always want to improve on the last time. It's that military side of me again, always aware that there is room for improvement and not to be satisfied with a partial effort. Being perfect isn't possible, but trying to is.

  So here is what I go through (spoiler alert). First of all, there are somethings I do on a regular basis for maintenance. I keep my eyebrows thin by plucking and trimming, manicure my nails and trim all those unwanted nose and ear hairs. I also keep my groin area shaved on a regular basis. That's just manscaping. A day or so before hand however, I will exfoliate the hair on my hands and feet, back, arms and body. The day of, I will shave my chest, armpits and legs nice and smooth. I make sure to shave my face very close and time it as close as I can to getting ready as it grows back quickly. That's just the preliminary.

   When I begin to get my girl disguise on and sit down to get serious is when I actually consider the start time here. I usually start with one last naked inspection of my shave job and fix any touch ups. Next I slip into my bra and panties. I usually have a few tricks I use to create cleavage and add my silicone breast forms. Then I put on my corset. I take out a wig and shake it out and style it a bit. I usually slip on a robe and sit down at the makeup mirror next. In my earliest pics I still showed beard shadow even after a close shave and foundation. I later discovered Dermablend cover up which works great to hide that. After the concealer, I apply a base foundation and powder to hold it. Then I go through the trickiest phase...false eyelashes. My own lashes are tiny and pale so I have to do this step. The hard part is gluing them on in the right spot without gluing my eyes shut or putting it on too high or not straight. Sounds easy but I wear glasses to see close up and I can't wear them while applying the lashes. So it often takes several attempts to get them on right. Once I conquer the lashes, I do my eye makeup which includes brow liner, eyeliner (also very tricky without glasses), eyeshadow (I blend a few colours) and mascara. I then add blush and lip liner before moving on. I save the lipstick and gloss until after I'm dressed. I learned that one the hard way.

   Next I pick out an outfit to wear which sometimes involves a few changes. I like to wear vintage stockings a lot which are time consuming to put on too. The garter belt is necessary (and sexy) and then nylons have to be rolled on wearing gloves to prevent snags from my nails. I learned that one the hard way too. Seams have to be adjusted and belt clips attached. The back ones are tricky. Then I put on a slip and a dress or skirt and top and I am getting close. Then there are the finger nails to polish still. I tried extensions before but they take longer than painting them. I would have had to do the toes first before the nylons but I often end up skipping the step if I know my toes will be hid in boots all night. While I wait for my fingernails to dry, I pick out my accessories; necklaces, choker, bracelets, earrings, ankle bracelet, etc. The neck choker can take time with the tiny clasp. Once dressed, I put on my lipstick and put on and fix my hair.

   At this point I usually stand in front of a mirror and self critique. After any fix ups, I load up my purse with everything I need to go out. I put on my shoes or boots, coat and I'm finally off. Well, maybe a few test photos first, then I'm off. When all things go well and it all clicks, I might be ready in and hour and half. When I'm having a rough time or struggling with something it can take up to three hours. I know that there are plenty of other shortcuts, like pantyhose and wearing less "stuff" but I like the creature that I create and it's part of the strive to be the best "Me" that I can be.

   I just hope that all of you admirers and non CDers can appreciate the effort we put in to be the Ladies that we strive to be. The old saying about "Walk a mile in their shoes before criticizing them" could not be more true.


Monday, 21 May 2012


   It comes to that time of year for me again. For those that have followed me over he past few years, you'll know what I'm talking about. I limit my tgirl outings and dress up sessions to the cooler months when I can hide my shaved legs and body with lots of clothes when I am in male mode. When summer arrives and the swimming pool opens and I coach football in shorts, I can't hide it. So during the summer season I don't even try any more. I just play it safe. It's almost impossible for me to get time off from work in the summer too. The downside is that I miss a lot of good outings and more people are apt to visit here during the summer but I have a lot to risk as you know. So I take a break until the autumn wind blows in.
   This year has been a bit slow for Mary-Margret. I had one good quality trip to Toronto for a G*rls Night Out in February but I didn't have as many outings as I have in previous years. I was hoping for at least one or two more in April or very early May, as I have in other years but my life has been throwing me some curve balls that have prevented this. I had a bought of the flu in late March. In April, I had a flood in my house which caused about $30,000.00 damage. Insurance covered the costs but my house has been busy with contractors almost every day since. I haven't had much privacy. I had a one day window saved for a possible outing but a few days earlier there was a death in the family and the funeral fell on that day. The weather then turned very warm and pleasant and the summer season was here. Oh well, that's fate for you.
    Sadly, I have officially given in to hibernation this year. It's always a bit depressing for me when this happens. That's why I get so hyped up around Hallowe'en. That's roughly the time of year when I can come out of hibernation.
    Understand though, it doesn't mean that I fall off the face of the earth completely. I actually have more time to concentrate on writing. I continue to blog, chat and even post pictures on Flickr. I try to keep a stash of unposted photos that I can put up during the summer months until I can take new ones in the fall. So far, I have been doing this since March but I will possibly dig up some oldies if I run out too soon. I ought to get a couple of stories finished this summer too.
   Now I will be watching for that first autumn leaf to fall. Until then, ...sigh.

Friday, 4 May 2012

Bucket Lists

Goal setting is an everyday occurrence in life and when it comes to crossdressing, most of us have a list of goals that we want to achieve. A "Bucket List" is that kind of thing. It is a list of things we hope to accomplish before we are finished or too old to do. For me it started out simple. When I was a teen, it was wear a pair of stockings, then wear a dress. As things progressed my goals became more specific; take pictures of yourself, go out in public, meet people as Mary-Margret, be seen in daylight, etc, etc. For the most part, I have done well with my lists.

Now my bucket list has a few unfinished goals and loose ends. I am not saying that I will quit when I have achieved them. I might just set some new goals if I do. I have two specific photo shoots that I want to do still. One is an outdoor shoot in daylight dressed in Camo, with my blonde wig and posing with a rifle. It is to illustrate my novel "Trooper Blondie" that I wrote in 2006.  I have all the stuff to do it, just need the time, place and preferably a photographer that's better than Otto Timur. The other set I want to do could be easier. I want to go to Toussards wax museum here in Niagara Falls with a friend to take pictures of me with all my celebrity stars. The last time I was in there, in drab, I couldn't help but think what an awesome set that would be and how much fun it would be to do it.

There are plenty of other things that I would love to do but I am realistic with my goals. So what's on your list?